The Benefit of Change
People get old because they become inflexible – in their bodies, in their behaviors, in their minds. The Martian and I don’t want to become inflexible. We invite change.
So change came in through our door because we invited the Martian’s daughter, who wanted to make major change happen in her life – job, move near family, etc. – to live with us while she got her changes in place. We all knew it would involve major change in our lives but knowing and experiencing are two different things.
With someone else in our space, more than ever the Martian and I worked to carve out sacred time together so our relationship stays “working happily ever after”. Three people in the same house is very different than two. So we took early morning walks and maybe went away for a couple of days. Whatever we did, I knew we would continue being aware – probably more aware – that sacred time together was one of the things we needed to do for ourselves.
November 9, 2009 | Tags: martian, relationship | trackback
Category: relationships & relationship tips
Anything worth having, is worth working on. I hope it worked out well for all three of you. I’m enjoying reading your posts very much.
Heather x
Change is good. Change is one of the few things you can always count on. Change is the place in life where the growth takes place.
So what is wrong with change except that is upsets the status quo; it upsets our comfortableness; it’s one of the things that we all tend to avoid. I mean during tough times who closes their eyes and dreams of a place where things are always changing. No, we all dream of a quiet place where things are comfortable and where they stay the same. Of course, the cemetery is also like that.
We had a daughter live with is until she got settled down. We have done this before with other adult children so I was nervous about this change and I was excited about this change. There was a loss of comfort for sure but there was also a new learning and new connections. It’s all good.
Stay tuned
It is wonderful that you welcome change and that you welcome your children. I agree that being flexible keeps you young and also able to have so many more experiences in your life. Life is very good.