So what happens when we heal ourselves pretty well emotionally? There is still a kind of damage from persistent abuse, criticism and maybe there is even a kind of damage from positive forms of parenting. But the child with good parents who love them but don’t understand that children are influenced and conditioned by those around them may still end up “losing” themselves.

They still have been conditioned and influenced as a result of their parents conditioning and their perspectives of themselves and the world are not fully theirs. It’s probably like a form of brainwashing, I imagine, but of children. Children are the most vulnerable to conditioning.

Imagine an adult with good self esteem who’s had a stable life and a good childhood. If someone started to frequently criticize or change the way they see the world, that person would walk away, not buy it and go on. But a child hasn’t the self knowledge or power to leave. Depending on the “wiring” of the child and the conditioning, the results would still be loss of self awareness. That child has been conditioned by the unknowing parent and so although it doesn’t make sense to anyone, they still may never quite find the life that is suited to them.