Comments on: How Can a Life Coach Help Me with Anger Management?

By: Suzie Cheel

Suzie Cheel — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 03:33:54 +0000

I love this and the letter writing idea.

By: Sonia Brill

Sonia Brill — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 14:50:16 +0000

Anger is not always a loud expression. It can also be a chronically irritable mood and a “bad attitude”. Easily angered people don’t always curse and throw things; sometimes they withdraw, sulk, or get sick. For those individuals who have explosions of anger, they can land themselves in trouble, enough to find themselves behind bars or charged with restraining orders. Destructive anger leads to problems in relationships, with the possibility of loss in marriage, job, school problems, and the overall quality of life. Anger management specifically affects one’s ability to make a dramatic change in handling anger. The focus is to help individuals develop the skills to handle conflicts successfully without losing their control.
By Sonia Brill, LCSW, CAMF
http://www.soniabrillconsulting.com

By: Quincy

Quincy — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 14:20:12 +0000

From what I gathered from the concept described in this post, writing a letter does seem like a productive way to let off some steam and pointed in the direction of letting go of any anger and/or resentment that would otherwise build up over time.

Interestingly simple concept…

By: Angela Dee, BSc, LCC, CEO [OOCA]

Angela Dee, BSc, LCC, CEO [OOCA] — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 12:39:59 +0000

I thought I would add some important theory that has been discovered in relation to anger and domestic violence. If an “abuser,” be it physical (aka “batterer), verbal, or [and this is extremely important] “emotional/psychological” abuser,” then the treatment is extremely different. Additionally, the efficacy rate of an abuser is extremely low. Many abusers are sent to Anger Management courses for treatment. Anger management worsens the abuser’s violence. Therapy and counseling “heighten” the abuser’s violence! The only true treatment that has been shown to be effective toward “change” is an “Abusive Offender” course. Unfortunately, there are few programs across the nation. If a woman (men are abused by women also but report it less most likely due to society’s expectations of “what a ‘man’ is expected to ‘be’-another story for later)…if a woman or man is being abused by their partner, then they need to seek an emergency shelter immediately. The abuser must attend an “abuser program,” usually a six month program that works to literally “reshape” the cognitions (thought processes)of a their “belief system.” Yes, it is an actual belief system that ‘they’ have a right to hurt another due to superiority values. There is much more to it. Trust me, I have worked with both women of domestic violence and male abusers. The research is numerous.

Maia’s article is wonderful and is speaking of a different type of anger. I just wanted to add that “abuse” is not a product of “anger” to be managed. It is a deep belief system that is very resistant to change. Thank you Maia for bringing this “Anger Management” issue to the forefront. I agree with you! And, you have lit a fire underneath me-off I go to start writing about domestic violence and abuse.
~with greatest sincerity, Angela~

By: George Anderson

George Anderson — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 10:57:45 +0000

Unfortunately, anger is a normal human emotion. It is a problem when it is too intense,occurs too frequently, lasts too long, causes health problems, leads to person-directed aggression on impacts interpersonal relationships.

Therefore, the only objective way of determines ones level of anger is by assessments which are specifically structured to determine ones’ level of functioning in recognizing and managing anger, stress, assertive communication and emotional intelligence.