How to know if your relationship is working or not
Not every relationship shows itself very clearly to our defensive minds as to whether it’s working or not. Sometimes we just don’t want to know – or at least our ego 
doesn’t want to know because then it will mean change and our egos HATE change.
So the simple test: Stop a moment. Think of your relationship. Does it make you happy to think about it or leave you feeling dull, hurting, confused, wishful, pained, __fill in the blank__________. If it leaves you feeling anything like that, you got problems.
November 12, 2009 | Tags: relationship tip | trackback
Category: relationships & relationship tips
Yeah, this is one of those simple tips that sounds good but doesn’t work all that well. I mean come on, if all it took for you to figure out if your relationship was working or not was to think for a moment about if it gives you energy or not then you could be deciding on the future of your relationship based on something like maybe you had gas or an upset stomach or headache at the time you did this test. I think people are very complicated and relationships are even more complicated and you don’t figure them out in a minute.
Let’s put it this way, snowflakes are simple on one level yet very complicated when you look at them and no two are the same. You could probably come up with a test for snowflakes but I am not sure what would be learned.
The ever expanding universe has infinite complications and diversity but it has a unified source of happiness or goodness or perfect balance.
Feeling good about anything is a good way to test if it is working for you as an individual. But if you have some physical aches and pains, find out what’s causing them so you can get rid of them. Never put up with discomfort for any reason.