Comments on: Learning How Not to Be Responsible for My Partner’s (and Others’) Feelings http://allaboutlifecoaching.com/learning-how-not-to-be-responsible-for-my-partners-and-others-feelings We are here to remind you who you are. Fri, 03 Feb 2012 22:29:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: allaboutlifecoaching http://allaboutlifecoaching.com/learning-how-not-to-be-responsible-for-my-partners-and-others-feelings/comment-page-1#comment-1495 allaboutlifecoaching Mon, 19 Apr 2010 20:53:37 +0000 http://allaboutlifecoaching.com/?p=1643#comment-1495 I loved this post for a couple of reasons. I love your very much Venusian way of doing it. I also love your husbands comments on it. It is nice to have both sides to the story. I wonder how many things my husband just goes along when I hang on to them. Thanks for the combination of views. Love you both. I loved this post for a couple of reasons. I love your very much Venusian way of doing it. I also love your husbands comments on it. It is nice to have both sides to the story. I wonder how many things my husband just goes along when I hang on to them. Thanks for the combination of views. Love you both.

]]> By: makara http://allaboutlifecoaching.com/learning-how-not-to-be-responsible-for-my-partners-and-others-feelings/comment-page-1#comment-1419 makara Wed, 03 Feb 2010 00:21:07 +0000 http://allaboutlifecoaching.com/?p=1643#comment-1419 lovely post lovely post

]]> By: Dr. Jane Bolton http://allaboutlifecoaching.com/learning-how-not-to-be-responsible-for-my-partners-and-others-feelings/comment-page-1#comment-1157 Dr. Jane Bolton Mon, 01 Feb 2010 19:20:55 +0000 http://allaboutlifecoaching.com/?p=1643#comment-1157 Love these posts- both of you. This is an area of exploration that fascinates me - how we assume responsibility for other's feelings, experience, and meaning making- or don't. Love these posts- both of you. This is an area of exploration that fascinates me – how we assume responsibility for other’s feelings, experience, and meaning making- or don’t.

]]> By: Connie Kay http://allaboutlifecoaching.com/learning-how-not-to-be-responsible-for-my-partners-and-others-feelings/comment-page-1#comment-1357 Connie Kay Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:40:28 +0000 http://allaboutlifecoaching.com/?p=1643#comment-1357 Interesting morning to read this, as I had a similar "episode" w/ my boyfriend last night. We don't live together, and I haven't checked in with him yet today. I wonder if he has already dismissed things or if he's still upset? I'm trying to let his feelings be his and not mine. But I sure want to call him and "make it all better"! Tricky. Thanks for sharing, it helps me! Interesting morning to read this, as I had a similar “episode” w/ my boyfriend last night. We don’t live together, and I haven’t checked in with him yet today. I wonder if he has already dismissed things or if he’s still upset? I’m trying to let his feelings be his and not mine. But I sure want to call him and “make it all better”! Tricky. Thanks for sharing, it helps me!

]]> By: Martian0511 http://allaboutlifecoaching.com/learning-how-not-to-be-responsible-for-my-partners-and-others-feelings/comment-page-1#comment-336 Martian0511 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:16:50 +0000 http://allaboutlifecoaching.com/?p=1643#comment-336 When I read Maia's entry about this instance in our life it was interesting because I did not experience this particular episode in our marriage in a way that was at all memorable. In other words, when I read her entry I thought back and, yeah, something like this did happen but it was nothing to write home about so that goes to show that what effects a Venusian sometimes has little or no effect on a Martian. Of course, if I say that then I am in trouble for not being sensitive to her miffs or in this case I was the one who was miffed and I just went into the other room and worked on stuff knowing that I would get over it. However, in the long run and the reason our relationship is still "juicy" is because, "darn it", Maia insists on not just getting "over it" but talking about it as well so that there are no unresolved feelings about "it". That's the medicine and, honestly, it's a small price to pay for the continued high level of connection, aka juiciness, in our relationship for 25 plus years. When I read Maia’s entry about this instance in our life it was interesting because I did not experience this particular episode in our marriage in a way that was at all memorable.

In other words, when I read her entry I thought back and, yeah, something like this did happen but it was nothing to write home about so that goes to show that what effects a Venusian sometimes has little or no effect on a Martian.
Of course, if I say that then I am in trouble for not being sensitive to her miffs or in this case I was the one who was miffed and I just went into the other room and worked on stuff knowing that I would get over it.

However, in the long run and the reason our relationship is still “juicy” is because, “darn it”, Maia insists on not just getting “over it” but talking about it as well so that there are no unresolved feelings about “it”.

That’s the medicine and, honestly, it’s a small price to pay for the continued high level of connection, aka juiciness, in our relationship for 25 plus years.

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