Life Coach Training – Yes or No?

There are no formal requirements for life coach training in order to become a life coach. Some people say, “Yet”. But there are several national and international coaching associations that provide information and mentoring on what you’ll need to become a life coach.

Many people think becoming a life coach is an easy title, but they miss the point. If you have nothing to offer, you won’t just get clients. It’s not that easy. People want to know they are going to get something in return before they would consider signing on and being your client.

Some coaches believe age and experience are important factors in being a good life coach, but in other cases younger people are just as effective as a more seasoned professional. Make sure though, if you say you’re great at time management or a specific business niche, that you’ve got extensive experience with the topic. Your client will find out quickly enough if you don’t.

My personal prejudice on this subject is that I wouldn’t want to work with a coach in an area that she doesn’t have success in. But that’s me.

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Getting The Love You Want

Many of the most successful women in society today will tell you that the main reason they have had as much success as they do is because they have had life coaching. Women, especially, are known for not standing up for themselves and being the nurturing ones in any relationship – work or personal. While being nurturing is a commendable thing, they’ve learned from their life coach first nurture yourself or you will begin to resent other people. They know this is the key to getting the love you want.

Support from a life coach can help women find the love within themselves.  They then have the power and tools to overcome old, unconscious habits and help them focus on what they want in life.   A coach helps them find the right ways to stand up for themselves and create an environment of self love. Without coaching, it is much more difficult to take a stand and take care of yourself. With a life coach holding you accountable to yourself, seeing you as BIG (of spirit not girth) as you really are, you can get past these obstacles and lead yourself into a much more successful and satisfying life.  Getting the love you want starts from within.

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We all go through weight gain some time in our lives. For me it entails self-hatred and shame. I  know what overeating leads to besides fat because I’ve been there.

I’m not planning to go there again but I did gain a few pounds. But you know what? It’s actually ok. I think I’ve needed to learn to love my belly. The only way I was ever able to lose the weight was to love myself more and more but I think I still had a judgment based on fear and anger at my mother that I didn’t want to have a stomach like hers. I felt so powerless as a severely yelled at and criticized child, I projected my fear and hatred onto my mother’s body parts and thereby on mine. Weird, huh?

But I thought I forgave my mother and now love her without judging after these  27 years. I’ve done so much work on this. Well, I have but there’s a little judgment stuck in my energy like a piece of cookie stuck between my teeth. Probably old stuck energy eventually rots us just like stuff stuck in our teeth can do the same thing.

So now that my belly is a little more poochie than before and in about 6 pounds it’ll be normal size, I’m going to project feelings of love to it and for it as it goes away. I have a little more self-love to uncover and must allow myself to receive.

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Life Coaching and Beyond

I heard the term professional life coach about 12 years ago. I didn’t think then “Oh, that’s what I am”. It was a regular day at the Mars Venus Institute where my husband and I ran this workshop training company owned by John Gray, when we got a call from Laura Whitworth from the Coaches Training Institute .  She wanted to speak to John Gray about adding relationship training to their curriculum.

Subsequently I heard “life coach ” from a friend who had recently begun working with a spiritual life coach. I was verbally ruminating about what I was going to do next in my life when she said, “You should become a life coach. It’s what you do anyway!” That is when life coaching and beyond all started.

What I Talk to My Coach About

I like to talk to a life coach when I’m stuck – when I can’t get on my magic carpet and look at my life from a larger perspective – when I am finding my mind and my behavior not in line with how I want my life to go.

Example : I had some big issues going on in the lives of my son and grandson. Important biggies. Now I know that attention on the picky little negative details is not how to create the positive outcomes that I want. But sometimes my mind gets stuck and keeps going there just like my tongue goes to where a tooth is missing. So, I want my life coach to remind me what happens when I do that. In other words, my life coach helps me reframe my situation to a more positive, life-affirming and empowered viewpoint. So I can go from life coaching and beyond.

Example : sometimes current situations trigger childhood unresolved issues particularly when I am working with someone who is resolving parental issues. Any perceived rejection or abandonment on their part can easily send me into a tizzy. Then I want help and assignments to help me get back to center.

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Rules For Being Human

These rules are consistent to everyone. It doesn’t matter where you are or where you are from these rules apply to your life. If you can embrace them, your self growth will truly show itself.

1.  You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period this time around.

2.  You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time, informal school called Life. Each day in this school, you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them stupid and irrelevant.

3.  There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial and error, experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately “works.”

4.  A lesson is repeated until learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.

5.  Learning lessons does not end. There is no part of Life that does not contain lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.

6.  “There” is no better than “here.” When your “there” has become a  “here,” you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”

7.  Others are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something that you love or hate about yourself.

8.  What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

9.  Your answers lie inside of you. The answer to Life’s questions lie inside of you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.

10.  This will often be forgotten, only to be remembered again.

From the book If Life is a Game, These are the Rules by Cherie Carter-Scott

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Kvelling  About Clients

That’s how I feel about Brenda’s accomplishments. She’s 59 and has always worked for someone else.  Friday was her last day of work in N. Carolina and Tuesday she got on a plane and moved to California where she will begin her own life coaching practice. Of course, she’s also going through all the feelings of the huge change in her life, but courageously moving into her new tomorrow.

This is another way I know the coaching relationship is working. She’s moving forward and I am kvelling!

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I believe that my denial or reluctance about personal growth and development effects the balance of  what I attract into my life, effects my mindset and the progress of me as a continually developing person.  If I don’t acknowledge my barriers to personal growth I will be in terrible discomfort.

Can a friend relationship be one of my barriers to personal growth?

Here’s an example from my life: Over my lifetime in the past I have formed powerful relationships with certain women to whom I willingly gave my power or, if I didn’t give my power away exactly, I denied the truth of some clear and subtle aspects of the relationship. I thought I was done doing that.

But several weeks ago I realized that a relationship I’ve had for 15 years had many aspects OUT OF BALANCE and I had indications and feelings for years.

For example:

• Almost all of the emotional support was going in one direction – from me to her – and had been for years
• I felt like it was an obligation to give her time and she felt like it was an obligation to give me time
• Truth be told, I no longer feel proud to call her my friend as she lives her life in ways I do not feel good about – let’s call it stagnated personal growth and development.

I could tell you stories that support the above but those stories would cloud the truth. The truth I had to be willing to allow myself to know was it was time to let this relationship go. I have done that. It was hard. I don’t like to think of myself as not loyal or a rejecting sort of person but for my own personal growth and development as a human being on Planet Earth for a fleeting lifetime, I did it. I hope it somehow has a positive effect on her but I did this for me.

I feel the peace of growth and the positive “backlash” of balance I’ve achieved.

Anything niggling at you? Take a look at your barriers to personal growth.

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