Life Coaching – What is it?

There are many questions that are frequently asked regarding life coaching. Many answers are found right here on this blog. Since this coaching trend is growing constantly and people are looking for more information like WHAT IS IT? and WHAT DOES IT DO? and WHAT WILL IT DO FOR ME?

Life coaching is a process of working with someone that is trained as a coach to help you figure out what you want most in life and how to get there. The coach will then assist you along the way as you work to obtain these goals. A major benefit of life coaching is you have someone to work with who will be able to exchange ideas, brainstorm, motivate, offer their intuition, support you in using your intuition and help you make a commitment to your goals. You have someone in the background holding you accountable to yourself and helping your see your great value and talents.

Life coaching can do anything for you that you want it too but you must put forth your effort and honesty to make it worth the investment. Find a life coach that you can work well with and make the necessary time and effort to work with your coach during your appointment and when you are working on your own in between sessions. The difference you can make in your life is beyond what you can imagine.

Benefits of Working with a Life Coach

Although dealing with change in our lives is not easy, it is necessary and there is no getting around it.  Your life will change all the time in hundreds of different ways and the only thing that you can control is how you handle the changes.

If you are not happy with your life, get over your fears, your past, your self doubt and CHANGE IT.  The key is to sit down and figure out what exactly it is that you do want and what actions you need to take to change it.  For most of us having that conversation alone in your head doesn’t seem to work out very well. It’s usually helpful and even necessary to have the help of a good friend or a life coach so that you will be honest and thorough with yourself.

Remember, what you think you want now will probably change many times throughout the course of your life. But all this change will help you find out how to deal with change.

Dealing with change begins with acceptance of the current situation . Work with a life coach or a therapist if you can’t reach acceptance yourself. Since life brings constant change, the inner resources to deal with change need to be developed.

Daily start to look for what you have to be grateful for in your life instead of focusing on your struggle and negative mind chatter. The basis of an inability to deal with change is fear. Try to “be with” the situation and fthe eelings. Stop resisting. You know the old saw: What you resist, persists.

Know that the changes you are going through you have created in your life with the way you think and change your thinking to match your goals and soon change becomes fun and easy as the changes with which you are succeeding and following through on, will help you accomplish your goals. The Law of Attraction says “like attracts like”. Prolonged focus on negative thoughts and feelings will attract more negative change into your life. It’s time to turn 180^o and pursue the exciting adventure that is your life.

Is Emotional Intelligence Important?

The only one allowed to get angry when I was a child was my mother. At least that how it seemed to me. I never really tried it past about 4 so I’m not sure what would have happened had I said, “Lay off, Lady! I hate that you are criticizing me and making me feel so bad.”

I seemed to be allowed only to be happy or hurt – at least that’s how I interpreted it all. As a result I not only lost touch with my real feelings but I acted the same way in my first marriage as I acted in my family. Happy or hurt.Then I found people, places and tools to teach me functional emotional intelligence. Beyond all the healing I did, my watchword was “tell the emotional truth quickly”. And that’s what I did – particularly in my relationship with the Martian. It was very scary at first. I thought I was risking losing him because my feelings were not all the popular ones. But a funny thing happened. We became closer and closer and we trusted each other more and more.

At  a time in every person’s life one must  find themselves  and find their own self awareness. People can get lost  from the effects  of  different  parenting. There is a kind of damage from persistent abuse, criticism   and  neglect.  There is even a kind of damage from positive forms of parenting. But the child with good parents who love them could  possible not understand that children are influenced and conditioned by those around them.   may still end up “losing” themselves.

They  have been conditioned and influenced as a result of their parents conditioning and their perspectives of themselves and the world are not fully theirs. It’s probably like a form of brainwashing, I imagine, but of children. Children are the most vulnerable to conditioning.

Imagine an adult with good self esteem who’s had a stable life and a good childhood. If someone started to frequently criticize or change the way they see the world, that person would walk away, not buy it and go on. But a child hasn’t the knowledge  or power to leave. Depending on the “wiring” of the child and the conditioning, the results would still be loss of self awareness. That child has been conditioned by the unknowing parent and so although it doesn’t make sense to anyone, they still may never quite find the life that is suited to them.

Low Self Esteem – Oh No!

The following characteristics are the most telling signs of severe low self esteem:

• critical to one’s self or others

• poor posture

• issues with weight

• indulging in self destructive behavior such as crime, alcohol or drug abuse

• remaining in abusive or unstable relationships

• the inability to find any positive aspects in life in general Believe it or not, even the best plans can be ruined by low self esteem. This

is mainly because individuals with low self esteem often have a belief deep within that they are incapable of achieving success or don’t deserve to be happy. Possessing high self esteem is all about instilling high values within yourself and upon yourself, which results in loving and accepting yourself for who you are – these are the essential keys to inner satisfaction and authentic self esteem.

Life coaching is a profession that not only helps individuals focus on their goals and establish flourishing careers, but helps them with issues such as low self esteem. This procedure is very efficient at isolating one’s fears and eliminating the common beliefs that prevent some from reaching their goal. With the aid of an expert, you can access your level of self esteem and establish a newfound confidence in a very short amount of time.

It has never seemed likely that USA life coaches will ever coach Chinese women unless it’s related to athletics or achieving a gold medal for their country. But who knows? Things are changing there and we have really inexpensive long distance and even internet phoning.

Since much of coaching is uncovering what makes you happy and fulfilled, a likely question to look at is what makes a Chinese woman happy? Power, money, love, sex?

In fact, self fulfillment ranks the highest for more than 60 percent of the respondents in a recent survey conducted by the Yueji Self, a Chinese-language magazine jointly launched recently by the Chinese-language Women of China magazine and the New York-based magazine publisher Conde Nast Publications..

Self fulfillment is defined by The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language as the fulfillment of oneself, the fulfillment of your capacities or the act of consummating something – a desire or promise, etc.

“The high marks for self fulfillment are inspiring and encouraging,” Li Yinhe, a noted sexologist and professor at the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences, said. “It shows big progress. More and more women want to achieve their life value, which eclipses the importance of the private life for women. “When women start to value self fulfillment, they become more equal to men.”

“In China, the traditional mindset is that men live for their careers and women live for love. Although only about 22.5 percent surveyed prioritized love as the big happiness maker, it doesn’t mean that Chinese women no longer believe in love,” Li said.

“The awareness and recognition of women’s empowerment are relatively low in China,” Li said. “The country has long been a patriarchal society and still is, offering less opportunities and encouragement to women to compete with men. Despite the progress made in gender equality and women empowerment in recent years, only 20 percent of the National People’s Congress (NPC) members are females,” Li said.

Life coaches, can you imagine yourself coaching women half way around the world? What an exciting prospect!

Getting The Love You Want

Many of the most successful women in society today will tell you that the main reason they have had as much success as they do is because they have had life coaching. Women, especially, are known for not standing up for themselves and being the nurturing ones in any relationship – work or personal. While being nurturing is a commendable thing, they’ve learned from their life coach first nurture yourself or you will begin to resent other people. They know this is the key to getting the love you want.

Support from a life coach can help women find the love within themselves.  They then have the power and tools to overcome old, unconscious habits and help them focus on what they want in life.   A coach helps them find the right ways to stand up for themselves and create an environment of self love. Without coaching, it is much more difficult to take a stand and take care of yourself. With a life coach holding you accountable to yourself, seeing you as BIG (of spirit not girth) as you really are, you can get past these obstacles and lead yourself into a much more successful and satisfying life.  Getting the love you want starts from within.