Is Being a Life Coach for You?

As people live longer, their life vision tends to be larger. Some people want to go back to school and then have a second or third career. My husband, at age 70, began his 5th career – this time as a high school Physics teacher.

As a life coach you not only have the ability to help people change their lives, you also get to share your expertise and knowledge and pass it onto others. So, if, for example, you worked many years in a corporate environment, you might quite naturally begin to coach people who are currently in a corporate environment themselves on issues they run across. You have been there and done that.

Many people have lead fast track careers that have taken them up the corporate ladder and around the world. Others have built successful businesses from the ground up. Still other have transformed lives that began in highly dysfunctional families. They then transformed the lives of their families and their own into something magnificent based on the learning and healing those early lives led to. These experiences and others can create a basis for a rewarding second career of life coaching. To get more information, contact me at 310-264-5625 Pacific time 9am to 4pm or email me at maiaberens@youuniversityonline.com.

Beyond Life Coaching

We all have a self-selected School of Life, i.e. I want to come into human form and want to advance my soul’s path by doing such and such in order to learn such and such which will bring me closer and closer to my Perfect Universe/Self.

One of the reasons I wanted to come into human form this time around was to learn to totally trust myself/the Universe.  This is what I call life coaching and beyond. It is what my own individual path is. There are many ways a person can “setup” this soul-growing challenge.

For example:

• One could be a  person like Mother Theresa and live the kind of life she lived.

• Or one could be born really ugly or disabled and learn how to totally trust  and love oneself even in the face of rejection or derision.
• Or one could have really low self esteem because they chose a mother who would criticize them regularly and often.

I chose #3!

One of the ways I’ve been doing it in this life’s journey is by being the kind of person who can only really meet people if they feel magnetized to me. If I put myself forward in most any way, it seems to push most people away rather than pull them closer.

The way this shows up in business, which for me is about having clients who want to become coaches and creating written products and sometimes giving workshops, is to never have marketing or selling myself work. People don’t react well when I do it.

So my journey is having me BE the magnet. In order to be the magnet, I have to totally be myself and love what and who that self is. What a journey it has been so far!

So what do you consider life coaching and beyond? I’m thinking that if you are considering becoming a coach or are a coach and wonder why you don’t have the clients you want, you might think of determining what is the most soul-related, authentic mode of having people find you that would work for your uniqueness ?

What is your path?

What Are You Attracting?

The Law of Attraction is active in everyone’s life whether you’re aware of it or not. The Law of Attraction states that you attract what you think, what you feel and what you are. It’s simple yet thought provoking.

If you have had a lot of negative stuff happen in your life, it could be the result of negative thoughts and feelings – conscious or unconscious. However, if you have had a lot of positive things happen in your, it’s probably because you have had a positive mind set and have done things that have attracted positive results.

Fear is a negative mindset and creates a negative vibration. If many people are afraid of terrorists, which is a normal reaction, then what will happen? Will we create more of what we don’t want? If many people are afraid of not having money, what will we all create?

That’s why I don’t watch the news. The media has advertisers. Those advertising companies want to sell their products. They sell their products by bombarding you with advertising. One of the ways they get you to keep looking at their ads is to use your human addiction to certain feelings.

It has been proven that we are addicted to fear so if they keep showing you killings, rapes, terrorists, failing money markets, your unconscious addiction to the feelings that those shows generate, keeps bringing you back to the news. It’s not news you are seeing. It’s the fruits of the general fear watching those things engenders.

There are presently very widespread experiments going on investigating just how this all works. Look at http://www.theintentionexperiment.com/.

Life Coach Training – What’s Necessary?

We all need a little help sometimes. Maybe you’ve set goals which include becoming a life coach but have trouble reaching that goal. Perhaps you have no idea of what it takes to be successful. Sometimes, your goals can appear so unreachable that life itself becomes overwhelming. If this sounds like you, a life coach may be the perfect solution. Having a life coach is, I believe, an important prerequisite to becoming one yourself.

Life coach training may be formal or may just involve a program of talk with your own coach, input from positive friends and family – all inclusive of your other personal growth experiences. Since the job of a life coach is to openly communicate with you and provide honest feedback as it relates to your goals and visions, it is important for you to determine if you willing to go where many others fear to tread.

A life coach will not attempt to take control of your life. You make your own agenda – they simply help you follow it,

• Making things easier by facilitating the process of actually defining your goals.
• A life coach may help you develop a well laid out plan to make your goals more obtainable.
• They will offer encouragement, help you identify your strengths and effectively apply them to your initial plan.
• With a strong emphasis on personal development, a life coach may teach you how to build a solid support team consisting of positive individuals that may play an essential role in your success.

Life coach training takes a general approach but there are variations that specialize in different areas. Other areas include,  business, creativity and relationship training. The best solution for you involves determining your needs and then finding a great life coach who specializes in that particular area or who can help you clarify whether you want to do it and have what it takes. Usually you will find that life coach training happens in their lives.

YOU University Online provides very in-depth training. If you are interested in life coach training, give me a call at 310-264-5625 Pacific time 9am to 2pm or email me at maiaberens@youuniversityonline.com.

I’ve been dealing with food addiction for over 40 years. It used to be  so tied in with my low self esteem and poor self image that it could only allow me to look some version of me being perfect to  even be OK. When that was true, all I wanted to do was think I looked OK and then everything would be fine. And since I never could really look OK, the distraction of the addiction served my crazy purpose – to feel badly about myself.

Now I have quite good self esteem and self image. My self questioning and self judgment about how I look or what I think and do is very rare. That is not to say I think everything I do is perfect. It is to say that everything I do is just OK with me. I trust that I have a lot to offer and I trust that I will not always do what is popular or what works. So what? Before, all I needed to do was be perfect. Now all I need to do is be myself.

I’ve been maintaining around a 40-50 pound weight loss for 4 years or so. I got rid of all clothes that I can trick myself into thinking I haven’t gain with; the slightly bigger ones that would then allow weight gain to surprise me. That was an old subconscious trick of mine. Now my clothes keep fitting and I’m bored with them. Isn’t that lovely?

Now all my clothes fit; my scale is correct and now I have to self coach. I have to self talk. I have to provide the support for myself that I provide my clients; the support that ultimately they will have to offer themselves. I have to find the part of me that loves myself enough to get over it - whatever it might be in the moment.

I’m like the man in Beautiful Mind who just decided that he would live with the delusions that his mental illness gave him and not medicate himself with the less-than-satisfactory drugs he was prescribed. I accept that sometimes this food addiction will walk along with me. I just need to acknowledge it, not resist it, and act in my best interests – not its. Ultimately we all coach ourselves – even the life coaches.

Law of Attraction and Aging

With our human mind’s penchant for assigning meaning to things, we have all assigned meanings to certain ages. I know you will easily be able to imagine a 2-year-old, a 22-year-old, a 70-year-old. Easy, you say. You may all have a different picture of each age because your mind assigns it one “look” and mine assigns it another but it’ll be close. I’d guess that this is somewhat societally and/or culturally influenced also. But if we could draw what we imagined, we’d probably often have a similar picture.

Other places on this site and other things you might have read have informed you how we create our lives. We have a thought; the thought creates feelings; our feelings create a certain vibration; our little super highway in our brains, our neuronet, keeps thinking the thought and we keep creating the feelings which create our predominant vibration and – voila! – it (whatever we’ve been thinking about over and over) is created in our lives. So over and over and over we think and picture and feel about being 35 or being 60 and when we get there to that age, there we are. We created just what we thought of over and over and over.

I am 69. My mother died at 57 so I don’t really know what a 66-year-old woman looks like in my family – and that’s a good thing (not good that my mother died so young but good that I have no picture of it). So I just look like and feel like a person who has woken up each morning for over 69 years, breathing and in the same body.

So to me any age means how long you have woken each day and fulfilled the requirement of breathing through that day . That’s all it means.

So what does age mean to you? The thing is, you are free to choose.

Inner Child Healing

Perfectionism started for me as a child. My mother wanted me to be perfect and I bought into it totally. I don’t feel like a victim here because the way I imagine it, that the choice was made during some period when I was out of a body and just an energy – a soul – and decided that a good part of my path in this life would be to always try to be perfect. I often fall very short. Many years ago I started working on my inner child healing and realized at age 66 that perfection is a mental box. It keeps creativity from entering.

Let’s look at an example. Let’s say I want perfect grooming. I try to figure out how to have my hair look perfect. I try to figure out how my nails should look to be considered perfect. I spend lots of effort figuring out how to dress, moisturize, deodorize and criticize myself into perfection. Does it work? Can I ever truly be perfect? Of course not! The more I try to be perfect the more I cut myself off from my inner child healing and know my true self.  It is not worth severing that connection with myself to fit into someone’s fashion box.

Let’s look at another example. Let’s say I want the perfect career but I don’t know who I am or what my gifts really are. I must start with my inner child healing, spending time on my own knowing.  Otherwise I will have cut myself off from that inner knowing by spending so much time in my thinking-ego-mind that I’m even confused about what others think is the perfect career.

You are the only expert on you what you need. How do you take those “cut off” parts of yourself back? You keep learning, being open to hearing from truly loving support and you keep knowing that you are intrinsically, infinitely creative by virtue of being a part of the magnificent Whole. You are perfectly you.