Getting The Love You Want

Many of the most successful women in society today will tell you that the main reason they have had as much success as they do is because they have had life coaching. Women, especially, are known for not standing up for themselves and being the nurturing ones in any relationship – work or personal. While being nurturing is a commendable thing, they’ve learned from their life coach first nurture yourself or you will begin to resent other people. They know this is the key to getting the love you want.

Support from a life coach can help women find the love within themselves.  They then have the power and tools to overcome old, unconscious habits and help them focus on what they want in life.   A coach helps them find the right ways to stand up for themselves and create an environment of self love. Without coaching, it is much more difficult to take a stand and take care of yourself. With a life coach holding you accountable to yourself, seeing you as BIG (of spirit not girth) as you really are, you can get past these obstacles and lead yourself into a much more successful and satisfying life.  Getting the love you want starts from within.

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We all go through weight gain some time in our lives. For me it entails self-hatred and shame. I  know what overeating leads to besides fat because I’ve been there.

I’m not planning to go there again but I did gain a few pounds. But you know what? It’s actually ok. I think I’ve needed to learn to love my belly. The only way I was ever able to lose the weight was to love myself more and more but I think I still had a judgment based on fear and anger at my mother that I didn’t want to have a stomach like hers. I felt so powerless as a severely yelled at and criticized child, I projected my fear and hatred onto my mother’s body parts and thereby on mine. Weird, huh?

But I thought I forgave my mother and now love her without judging after these  27 years. I’ve done so much work on this. Well, I have but there’s a little judgment stuck in my energy like a piece of cookie stuck between my teeth. Probably old stuck energy eventually rots us just like stuff stuck in our teeth can do the same thing.

So now that my belly is a little more poochie than before and in about 6 pounds it’ll be normal size, I’m going to project feelings of love to it and for it as it goes away. I have a little more self-love to uncover and must allow myself to receive.

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Life Coaching and Beyond

I heard the term professional life coach about 12 years ago. I didn’t think then “Oh, that’s what I am”. It was a regular day at the Mars Venus Institute where my husband and I ran this workshop training company owned by John Gray, when we got a call from Laura Whitworth from the Coaches Training Institute .  She wanted to speak to John Gray about adding relationship training to their curriculum.

Subsequently I heard “life coach ” from a friend who had recently begun working with a spiritual life coach. I was verbally ruminating about what I was going to do next in my life when she said, “You should become a life coach. It’s what you do anyway!” That is when life coaching and beyond all started.

What I Talk to My Coach About

I like to talk to a life coach when I’m stuck – when I can’t get on my magic carpet and look at my life from a larger perspective – when I am finding my mind and my behavior not in line with how I want my life to go.

Example : I had some big issues going on in the lives of my son and grandson. Important biggies. Now I know that attention on the picky little negative details is not how to create the positive outcomes that I want. But sometimes my mind gets stuck and keeps going there just like my tongue goes to where a tooth is missing. So, I want my life coach to remind me what happens when I do that. In other words, my life coach helps me reframe my situation to a more positive, life-affirming and empowered viewpoint. So I can go from life coaching and beyond.

Example : sometimes current situations trigger childhood unresolved issues particularly when I am working with someone who is resolving parental issues. Any perceived rejection or abandonment on their part can easily send me into a tizzy. Then I want help and assignments to help me get back to center.

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Rules For Being Human

These rules are consistent to everyone. It doesn’t matter where you are or where you are from these rules apply to your life. If you can embrace them, your self growth will truly show itself.

1.  You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period this time around.

2.  You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time, informal school called Life. Each day in this school, you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them stupid and irrelevant.

3.  There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial and error, experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately “works.”

4.  A lesson is repeated until learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.

5.  Learning lessons does not end. There is no part of Life that does not contain lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.

6.  “There” is no better than “here.” When your “there” has become a  “here,” you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”

7.  Others are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something that you love or hate about yourself.

8.  What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

9.  Your answers lie inside of you. The answer to Life’s questions lie inside of you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.

10.  This will often be forgotten, only to be remembered again.

From the book If Life is a Game, These are the Rules by Cherie Carter-Scott

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Kvelling  About Clients

That’s how I feel about Brenda’s accomplishments. She’s 59 and has always worked for someone else.  Friday was her last day of work in N. Carolina and Tuesday she got on a plane and moved to California where she will begin her own life coaching practice. Of course, she’s also going through all the feelings of the huge change in her life, but courageously moving into her new tomorrow.

This is another way I know the coaching relationship is working. She’s moving forward and I am kvelling!

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What a great session we had today – which is the usual for us. Now that you have a coaching blog, I can express the enthusiasm and clarity I feel at the end of our session.  In the past I sometimes did this by email.

When I was commenting to you how stagnated I feel because I “should” be more focused on creating my website, you made me aware of “should”.  Thanks.  I will be working on the assignment you proposed and look forward to next week’s time together.  My assignment was to live with the inquiry of “What if I jumped right to going after being a life coach with no steps in between?” I’ll let that percolate for the week and see where it goes in me.

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I have a suspicion that Thanksgiving which has the obvious celebration of gratitude – the Pilgrims gratitude to the Native Americans for their help in surviving in this harsh land – has – I truly believe – a deeper, more spiritual mean and reason for being.

I’ve noticed over the years the apparent spiritual brilliance sneaking through things like the Constitution. Were the Founding Fathers so smart or were they inspired to create a country that has achieved so much enlightened behavior. Certainly we have had our times of great adversity – to whit the last 8 years – but I feel that too is all in the plan. It does seem to be we humans grow – adversity causes jumps in consciousness both individually and group consciously also.

So, Thanksgiving. Imagine a holiday that celebrates gratitude. What other purpose could it have? Could it be how the “spirits” let us know that gratitude is important. Gratitude is so important it is likely the next to healthiest emotion we can have. Pure love is the healthiest but gratitude takes a very close second because proper use of it uncovers the love that’s always there. It has the ability to plug you in to the love you forgot momentarily. And why do we want to have those feelings so much besides the fact that they feel so good?

Because that is how we create ourselves to be positive attractors. How make use of Law of Attraction on purpose – not by default. Law of Attraction works whether we know it, like it, work with it – or not. It is a Universal Law like gravity. If you consciously create a certain emotional vibration, you can consciously attract into your life experience and material stuff that match it. Like attracts like.

So I’m thinking that Thanksgiving is a reminder each year to get back on track with gratitude if you want to create the life of your dreams.