Executive Coaching Part of Training

More and more corporations are turning to executive coaching as a part of their ongoing training. The trend is huge and growing quickly. Corporations are finding that offering an executive coaching program to their employees will:

• increase individual productivity
• create a better atmosphere
• improve teamwork
• less conflict
• more taking responsibility

If everyone is more productive and getting their jobs done than there is less conflict in the workplace and fewer people trying to pass the buck and get someone else to help them with their work. So you might say that coaching in the workplace creates not only more productivity but a greater sense of personal responsibility in employees.

Companies are advised that when it comes to executive coaching, it is best to do your homework before hiring a company. Executive coaching is an expensive undertaking for a company and it pays to shop around and interview many coaches and ask lots of questions. Ask to see something tangible that you can review that shows what type of program they offer and what will be included in the coaching package. Explore the possibilities between a coaching package and individual coaching one-on-one. Make sure that you find a company that can support your needs whether you are a large company or just a small company looking to grow.

Having had no corporate experience myself, I decided to go “undercover” and attend a couple of meetings of an organization where executive coaches gather. Guess what I discovered? Executive coaches talk about many of the same things I talk about with my clients – improved relationships at home and work, improved communication skills, strategies to accomplish goals. They also provide support where corporate individuals are selling themselves short.

If you are fortunate enough to work at a company that provides executive coaching, take advantage of it and start what might be the adventure of your life?

Expressing Your Emotional Pain

Are you afraid of your feelings?

You could have looked at this subtitle and thought one of two things:  “What’s the big deal? We all know how to deal with our feelings” or “Yes. I think my feelings are too big or to0 many or too scary”. For those with the second comment: sometimes when we find a challenge, like in addressing our emotional pain, their are benefits. Only, if we look.

I don’t know what it’s like in other states on other freeways but you’ve probably heard we have lots of traffic here in L.A.

Well, I’m scared of driving on the freeway and so  I usually don’t unless someone else is driving. A couple of weeks ago my husband was driving in pretty heavy weekend traffic going south on the 405. Sometimes when we drive we chat about this and that (in between grousing about the traffic and drivers). This day we were chatting about how lucky we are to have been trained how to deal with our feelings and emotional pain when along comes a license plate saying WHY HURT.

WHY HURT  can mean more than one thing. It can mean:

• First- “You don’t have to hurt” and I agree with that. We can make a choice. Unfortunately, many think they can’t, but still, WHY HURT?
• Second (this is the reason it struck me so)- A reason to feel  hurt (if you are really in touch with your feelings and know how to let them flow as they were meant to) could mean you are on your way to healing your emotional pain. HURT is milder than ANGER, on it’s way to having one know their FEARs and a bit closer to LOVE and FORGIVENESS.

So I ask you: “Why hurt?” you are so close to being in a place of love and forgiveness. Why not learn and move on and become that much closer with yourself?   In the pursuit of not feeling our feelings, at the very least we become disconnected from ourselves and have problems relating to others deeply and well. Why hurt?

I Don’t Have an Office

How does life coaching work over the phone? 100% of the life coaching I do is over the telephone. I live in California and coach people in N.J., Florida, N.Y., Nevada. I even have clients who live in England and Scotland. Since long distance is so inexpensive these days, it’s easy. It also means the coach does not have to have an office. She just has to have a phone and a place to sit down – at minimum. She can have (and most do) a good headset and a nice, non-distracting setting in which to sit.

But you might wonder if it is most effective for the client and I will wholeheartedly answer, YES!

I have the ability to read energy. A quote from Gia Combs-Ramirez who says,

Reading energy is our ability to perceive vibrations in our surrounding environment and interpret them correctly. The human body has many mechanisms for doing this, most notably the energy field that surrounds us.

I could have probably quoted some science to prove my point but you can prove it yourself. How do you know someone is angry with you when they smile and say nothing? Or, how do you know when a baby is satisfied when they can’t talk?

Start noticing if this is a gift you have developed. I think I developed this gift as a child because I was very afraid of my mother and was always energetically checking in to see how she was feeling so I’d be prepared for her emotional onslaughts. I used to just be hyper-vigilant. Now I live a happy, peaceful life and so I have honed this skill and use it to communicate with my clients and feel what’s going on with them.

So that’s why I find phone coaching so effective. It allows me to totally tune into my clients with no visual cues to get in my way.

And if I’m not sure, I don’t just presume. I ask. So then I am modeling good communication skills which is one of the areas most clients want to improve.

So how does life coaching work over the phone? Very well!

Anger – That Scary Old Thing

I’ve noticed that lots of people write about anger management on the internet. Seems like most of the suggestions have to do with thinking and controlling yourself. If someone has a problem with anger, a natural emotion, that means that their reactions are too large, too angry, maybe scary to those around them and probably lead the person with that problem to say things they are very sorry for after. It can also lead to violence.

Over 25 years ago I went to a series of monthly workshops and a weekly support group led by John Gray and Barbara deAngelis who were married to each other at the time. In those groups they talked about anger and how old, unexpressed anger was at the root of anger problems. They taught us a technique that I still teach my clients. It’s called a Love Letter because they explained that love is underneath all the negative feelings.

I had a different kind of anger problem. I thought I didn’t have any – anger – that is. Even though I was criticized and yelled at throughout my entire childhood (and early adulthood) by my mother. Of course, I did. I just didn’t know it. I had lost connection to it. Of course, I did yell at my kids and my ex-husband but I didn’t know I was angry.

If you have an anger problem, you might try using this letter writing tool. It’s kind of like having free therapy. You go through your feelings in a safe environment by putting them on paper in a prescribed way. No one gets hurt and you rid yourself of a layer of stuck anger and all the feelings underneath.

We used to say in our groups with John and Barbara, “If you want to feel better, write a Love Letter.”

Self Awareness

Just want to say a word about my journey. I see through my own self awareness that I have come such a long way. I noticed this when observing my reactions with clients calling or not calling. When it comes to wondering if someone will actually call to become my client when they say they are going to.

I used to fret and worry and take their calling or not very personally. I was sure it was a rejection of me. My mind got very loud and plugged into old self esteem issues.

I see how much better my reaction is now.  Through my own growth and self awareness I know my own strengths and gifts.  I do know what I give my clients and what benefits they gain. My mind tries to go back to my old ways, like a tongue with a space where a tooth used to be, but it’s little and light compared to the past.

But whether it is a potential client not calling back or my own adult child not liking something I am or am not doing, I am grateful for my progress. I am self aware and I see a peaceful and growing woman.

My Daily Inspirations

I get letters from my clients frequently of their own self growth and progression.  These little letters are my daily inspirations. My happiness in my life’s work is displayed through my clients.

Maia,

On our call yesterday, I had the satisfaction of telling you how my little drama has unfolded.  I call it a little drama, because I never would have imagined how easy it would be to get in the flow and just go with divine guidance to realize and address some issues I have been struggling with for as long as I can remember.  You gave me a challenge to “jump in” on a coaching call a couple of weeks ago, and I said “yes!” – now I am working at a whole different level.  What I feel is not a giddy happiness or sense of accomplishment, but rather a turning around to see myself as whole, and mature, and ready to be who I have become.

Thanks from my heart,

Anita

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Life Coaching- How Much Is It Worth?

Life coaching services provide many benefits to individuals by promoting self-confidence, helping with career guidance, strengthening relationships and other important aspects of personal life.

Choosing a life coaching service maybe one of the biggest and most important decisions you’ll every make. Not only do you need to consider the price, but also their level of expertise and the approach they will take. More than likely, you will need a coach that is attentive to both your career and elements in your self confidence as well.

The fees for life coaching range widely but mainly depend on your location, the number of sessions and the methods they apply. This typically provides a half hour of one-on-one coaching per week. I, for example, generally do forty minutes to one hour sessions and my fees are monthly with discounts for a verbal commitment to stick it through until we both agree your goals have been met. (I don’t recommend a coach posting their fees because sometimes a person might decide the cost is too much because their sub-conscious is really afraid of the potential changes in their lives and the fee will give them the needed out.)

Fees for business executive coaches and personal career coaches tend to be much higher. One reason for this is because these areas usually require more time, easily leading to one to two hours while important business matters are discussed. Some packages may cost anywhere from $100 to $150 per hour while executive life coaching may range from $1,000 to $10,000 per month depending on the professional’s level of experience and the career field.

Life coaching can be a very effective tool that helps you leap those hurdles and get on the path to success. This isn’t a question of whether or not its worth it, yet what your career and personal well-being is worth to you.