This Is How Relationship YOU Begins

Welcome to the first session of Relationship YOU. You have made a very wise choice. The tools you are about to learn – the journey you are about to embark on – is heading you in exactly the right direction to create the relationship of your dreams.

Every Wise Fairy God Mother has her toolbox. In this program I will be sharing mine with you. I have acquired many tools and much wisdom in my 27-year successful marriage which came following a lot of learning and study in the 5 years between it and my 19-year relationship failure.

I also learned a thing or two from an important teacher in my life, John Gray, the Men Are from Mars guy whose company, Mars Venus Institute, my husband and I founded and ran for 5 years. One pretty much learns to eat and breathe the material when you work with creating and giving workshops and training 500 speakers and therapists throughout the world.

My Assumptions

I’m going to assume a couple of things are true about you before you got to this moment. I’m going to assume:

• You are interested in creating a long-term healthy relationship with someone you love – whether now or in the future.

• You are committed to working through this program.

You will have no need to hurry through this course. You have 14 weeks with your coach and a lifetime to use what you learn. However, if you are committed to creating the relationship of your dreams and want to make the associated adjustments, set aside a certain amount of time each week to work with it. Plan on spending twenty minutes to a half hour each time you work. There is no way to really know how long it will take. It depends on you. If you make time each week to focus on the material, you will continue to add to the building blocks of relationship change. Beginning Relationship YOU and contemplating the changes are big steps.

Relationship YOU is for anyone who wants to improve their relationships – whether you are in one at this time or not. It will provide the awareness and tools to create the Relationship of Your Dreams. Oh, it’ll also give you the tools to improve relationships with family, friends and yourself too.

It occurs over 14 weeks. It includes weekly coaching and weekly assignments.

If you are interested in seeing the Table of Contents, I’ve created a page on my website with it. Go check it out and see if it’s for you.

Yesterday I was going through section 4 of Relationship YOU, and I couldn’t help but notice my enthusiastic interest in the part of beliefs, of how our minds are somewhat programmed to produce negative thoughts out of virtually any situation. Turns out that just a couple hours ago I found myself in a situation where I constructed the worst case scenario out of a simple phone conversation, and I immediately recalled what I had read in the above program last night.

My colleague called me at 8 pm while I was driving home with my family, to tell me that a manila envelope had been sent to me from our company’s main office located in the capital, Santo Domingo, and that it was for my eyes only. Right away I thought “what on Earth is so important that my colleague can’t wait till tomorrow morning to give it to me.” Out of nowhere my mind started wandering through all the worst case scenarios that might derive from the contents inside that envelope. Obviously, the one that terrified me the most was that there was a letter informing me I was being fired from my job because my boss wasn’t pleased with my work. Coincidentally, Deborah, my wife, fabricated the exact same picture in her mind. We are talking about two totally independent brains threading together an identical outcome to a situation than can unfold in a broad variety of ways.

For a brief moment I completely erased my accomplishments as Project Coordinator, and how my boss has confided and relied on my technical criteria to solve different issues that have come up along the way. I did not abandon the thought of being fired completely until I received the envelope in my hands and opened it up. All I pulled out were copies of checks that had been paid to various workers, as well as service and materials suppliers, during the course of last week.

I talked to Debby about this, and we agreed that negative thinking is almost a human condition, and no one is exonerated from experiencing this, at least every now and then. At first I felt upset, but then I decided not to be so hard on myself. Good thing I learned the proper information from Relationship YOU regarding this line of thoughts, and I was able to cope with the emotions that arose within me as a result of my mind’s creative thinking. I am grateful indeed!