Comments on: Why do we always fight when…? http://AllAboutLifeCoaching.com/why-do-we-always-fight-when Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Life and Life Coaching Mon, 20 Jan 2020 17:01:03 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: allaboutlifecoaching http://AllAboutLifeCoaching.com/why-do-we-always-fight-when/comment-page-1#comment-293 allaboutlifecoaching Thu, 05 Nov 2009 18:40:48 +0000 http://AllAboutLifeCoaching.com/?p=1573#comment-293 FYI: The kind of anger we express and experience looks nothing like loss of self-control. This is just the normal, humans-who-love-and-respect-each-other variety. FYI: The kind of anger we express and experience looks nothing like loss of self-control. This is just the normal, humans-who-love-and-respect-each-other variety.

]]> By: George Anderson http://AllAboutLifeCoaching.com/why-do-we-always-fight-when/comment-page-1#comment-290 George Anderson Thu, 05 Nov 2009 18:14:59 +0000 http://AllAboutLifeCoaching.com/?p=1573#comment-290 Unfortunately, self-control is severly impacted by intense anger. Persons who are able to manage their intense emotions do not have anger management problems. Unfortunately, self-control is severly impacted by intense anger. Persons who are able to manage their intense emotions do not have anger management problems.

]]> By: Martian0511 http://AllAboutLifeCoaching.com/why-do-we-always-fight-when/comment-page-1#comment-289 Martian0511 Thu, 05 Nov 2009 16:14:09 +0000 http://AllAboutLifeCoaching.com/?p=1573#comment-289 I forget the name of the song or who wrote it but John Denver has a line in a song that goes "why do we always fight when it's time to go..." I have learned that fights (at least in our relationship) are very healing. I am not recommending that for everyone, by the way. For us, it seems we do it unconsciously to get the energy moving. Our communication is always better and closer after a fight. Maybe I should define fight. A fight for Maia and me is some cross - even angry words which is then immediately is followed by a lot (and here I mean a lot) of talking. The talking is like foreplay and it certainly works. Some tips: It helps if during the angry part that we don't say things that we will regret later. In the 25 years we have been together, Maia has only walked out one time and I have only walked out maybe 2 or 3 times. All of the walkouts were temporary and involved like walking around the block before coming back. It is better if you just stay the room and tough it out. If you must leave, don't go far or let your partner know when you will be back. I forget the name of the song or who wrote it but John Denver has a line in a song that goes “why do we always fight when it’s time to go…”

I have learned that fights (at least in our relationship) are very healing. I am not recommending that for everyone, by the way.

For us, it seems we do it unconsciously to get the energy moving. Our communication is always better and closer after a fight.

Maybe I should define fight. A fight for Maia and me is some cross – even angry words which is then immediately is followed by a lot (and here I mean a lot) of talking. The talking is like foreplay and it certainly works.

Some tips:

It helps if during the angry part that we don’t say things that we will regret later. In the 25 years we have been together, Maia has only walked out one time and I have only walked out maybe 2 or 3 times. All of the walkouts were temporary and involved like walking around the block before coming back. It is better if you just stay the room and tough it out. If you must leave, don’t go far or let your partner know when you will be back.

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