“Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it.Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.” Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Nightly for many years I lay in my lonely marriage bed and fantasized about what I called “running away from home.” I could never quite see how I’d do it. To keep thinking about it seemed to relieve the pressure of my daily struggle. Now I realize that my biggest moment of power had been when I made the decision to leave my husband. I made a decision and trusted it even though I had not thought the whole idea through. This time what blossomed in my mind because of that decision was the awareness that I could rely on myself.

I had heard the voice of my Real Self guiding me and it was in this way that I decided the future of my life. I heard “could” instead of “should” and “want to” instead of “have to”.

THE OLD VOICE LEFT A HEAVY FEELING IN MY GUT. THE NEW VOICE LEFT ME FEELING UPLIFTED AND LIGHT. IT FELT LIKE ANGELS IN MY HEART RATHER THAN A PITCHFORK IN MY BUTT.

I followed the new voice and found the first people and places I needed to begin the process of transformation to My Real Self.

Making a decision means jumping from one state of mind to another. Before – I thought and felt this way; now – I think and feel this new way. Make a decision fully and it is not hard to follow the new way as it generates a new consciousness and therefore, ideas and knowledge follow.

There is right-brain decision making which is intuitive. And, there is left-brain decision-making that is systematic. Here I am talking about right-brain decision-making. Intuitive decision-making hides the steps. You make a “belief in your own knowing” leap when you trust and act on this kind of decision.

You made a decision and and read this article. Reading and article is not a big decision or a big deal. Was it an intuitive decision or a step-by-step decision? My guess is that it was an intuitive decision. If that is so, then it follows that your intuition is guiding you toward this journey of transformation and beginning to reveal a new opening of consciousness that is forming in you.

So having made the decision, albeit unconsciously and now having become conscious of your decision, you can look at what else you need for your transformational journey.

In the 12 Step program they say, “If you want what I have, you have to do what I do.” I have set down here what I do; however, I’d like to tweak the 12-Step statement a bit and say,

IF YOU WANT WHAT I HAVE AND DON’T HAVE IT – A HAPPY MARRIAGE, GOOD FAMILY RELATIONS, WONDERFUL FRIENDS AND VERY SATISFYING PURPOSEFUL WORK, YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT THAN YOU ARE DOING NOW
OR

IF YOU ALWAYS DO WHAT YOU’VE ALWAYS DONE YOU’LL ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU ALWAYS GOT!

This program  has the ways and tools that work for me. Choose these and whatever else works for you. Simply be honest with yourself along the way.

Taking on transformation as a way of life requires certain attitudes and mindsets. You will want to acquire willingness, commitment, integrity, courage, compassion, accountability, responsibility and trust.

**Excerpt from You University: Coaching Program to Learn to Live Your Real Self © by Maia Berens