I’ve spent many years doing what I recognize allows positive change to happen. I work on healing the past, changing my beliefs and performing inspired action (inspired because now my inner energy field is free to attract what I want – Law of Attraction in action). And boy! Am I attracting!

In the last month I’ve gotten 3 new clients and attracted a really big, wonderful business opportunity that makes use of my gifts and gets me really excited.

For years  I have worked to clear  my blocks that keep me from abundance.   I have also been coaching my clients to do the same.

Can it be so easy? Why doesn’t it always work? My experience is that most people are afraid to deal with the emotional part and so those hurts from the past must keep them bound to continue to create the same thing over and over.

It’s not a very black and white, this-is-exactly-how-you-do-it kind of thing. But I do know it takes healing, changing beliefs and then comes the inspired action. Oh, what is my inspired action? Well, because I know that my marketing efforts work best when people get to know me, I am creating ways for that to happen.  I have built a place where people of all walks of life can come to feel secure and grow. This is just one of the ways that I have allowed the law of attraction to work for me and help those around me.

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Boundaries. You hear people talking about them but maybe you aren’t sure what they mean. A boundary around a piece of property is the outer limit or can be a wall or fence that is there to keep others out. For you, personal boundaries are your limits for other people in relationship to you. It is the key to building healthy relationships.

Boundaries are an important part of life for everyone. If you do not set boundaries in your personal life, you may find yourself unhappy and resentful. Learn to say no when your boundaries are being pushed too far. For example, your friend often wants you to pick up her kids from school and do a little shopping for her but today you had planned to do your own shopping in a different part of town. It is within your rights to say no. Don’t allow anyone to take advantage of you. That doesn’t mean you’d never do a favor for your friend. It doesn’t mean your boundaries can’t be flexible. But unless her need is based on serious circumstances of incapacity of some sort, allow yourself to feel uncomfortable with no , but say it anyway.

Don’t let yourself be one of those who time and time again are taken advantage of by the people in their lives. It is unhealthy. You must love yourself and realize that you can’t do everything and although you may not like saying no to someone, you have to find a way to get comfortable with saying it. Or maybe you’ll never be totally comfortable but you will train those people in your life to think more carefully before they ask you to take on their responsibilities. Boundaries are an integral way to building healthy relationships.

Some people will try to take advantage of you and push your boundaries to the breaking point anytime you allow them too. Don’t allow them to. Take care of yourself first and the way to do that is to decide what is acceptable to you and be courageous enough to say no when it is in your best interests. You have to do what is right for you, not your mother, not your husband, not your sister or your neighbor, but you. Only then will you truly be able to continue to help others with love and even enjoyment and without hurting yourself. If this is a tremendously problematic area for you, you might ask a life coach for help.

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Being human means personal growth and development or stagnation. If you want to grow and develop:

• you’ll need to identify what you do best, and do more of it.
• Identify what you do worst, and stop doing it.

A lot of people have trouble identifying their strengths. Here are five questions to ask yourself that will help you identify your strengths:

Question #1: What do I like to talk about without stopping?

Things that interest you most get you talking on and on. If you have a positive passion, sort out what you like most about it.

Question #2: Everyone is different. Do you get excited by people or by ideas or by things?

If you’re a real people person, you’ll need contact with lots of people! Idea people may want to find more time to write, or do research. People who are great with things are  usually  mechanically  inclined.

Question #3: What do you enjoy most about the things you do today?

The only thing you can do consistently and with excellence is something you really love to do. If you don’t love doing something, you’ll never be anything but good at it.

Question #4: Who can you find who works in a field you like?

Call someone who does something that might interest you. Finding out what you don’t want to do is as important as finding your passion.

Question #5: Who will be your future mentors?

One of the most important things you can do is to find a good mentor and/or life coach. A good mentor has experience traveling the personal growth path you want to travel, likes you, can laugh with you and will allow you to experiment while drawing on their wisdom.

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TEN years ago I would not have envisaged that I would need to lecture or write about happiness. Nor would I have imagined that political parties and governments would be enthusing about policies promoting happiness as the big idea of the 21st century.

Happiness has become the objective of a powerful crusade. Its advocates insist on making us happy whether we like it or not. Richard Layard, leading prophet of this crusade, has stated that it needs “a cadre” of “specialist teachers acting as proselytes and high priests of the movement” to see through the “educational revolution”.

Basically the article says: In watching the campaign news in the last few elections and observing our children in school, it is becoming clear that governments and schools have shifted some of their focus from the real issues to the matter of happiness and self esteem. The candidates are trying to make us happy. Teachers wish to instill happiness and self esteem techniques into their curriculums of reading, writing and math. While these methods may make those people happy and make them feel as if they are making headway in our children’s futures, what about teaching them that the only one that can increase their self esteem or make them happy is themselves. While teachers have always attempted to inspire their students, it used to be about making them feel good when they are learning things, not teaching them to be happy.

Teachers and governments may have the right to teach us what is right and what is wrong but how can they even attempt to teach us how to feel and what is the right way to feel in any given situation. Happiness is brought about by our life experiences and our peace of mind. That has to come from within and can not be taught out of a text book or from a campaign speech.

The past has certainly shown us that being happy does not make us good and a good life does not always indicate a happy life. It is a personal, unique concept that no one but the person themselves can expand on and learn from.

He has many good points. I don’t agree with it all but I am taken by the fact that we have started to talk about what I consider important- how each and every person feels about themselves. I imagine a world where self esteem is so high that no one would consider hurting themselves, each other or the planet.

What are your thoughts?

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In light of that and because my muscles start hurting if I don’t do it, I’ve taken up yoga. I love it. So as I was showering this morning I was noticing resistance. And I don’t like resistance and I don’t want it but if I push against it, it pushes back.

So instead I asked myself what the resistance to yoga was about. And here’s what I got: it’s about allowing myself the time. My mind says, “You could be working on your coaching programs or washing dishes or …..” whatever.

I realize that my mother never let herself spend any time in self care and unwittingly made it a value to be taken on and honored. She told me with great disdain for our neighbor walking down the street in her tennis dress: “Exercising is vain.”

So, Resistance, you are just a mask for keeping me loyal to that unconscious value. You may leave. Your job has been done. You tried very, very hard and long to hide the truth from me and did a  really great job of it. Now I know a different truth, I AM WORTHY OF MY OWN TIME AND ATTENTION.

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Maggie Currie

Have you ever wondered what is the single biggest of the self esteem issues? Surprise, surprise, it is us, ourselves, human beings. While it is one of our biggest desires – to be self-confident and have no self esteem issues, because we believe itwill help us to achieve our goals, at the same time, we are also our biggest saboteurs.

It all started for me in my childhood. I remember my mother being so nice and friendly to my neighbors, teachers and friends, only to turn into an infinitely more critical person when it came to me. I was to be seen and not heard, my opinions were of no value and I was to do as I was told and not question it. That obviously had a huge influence on me. I began automatically demanding so much more of myself than I would from other people. I also began to believe that everyone was so much better than me. I felt like I was very small and insignificant. And this feeling stayed with me for many, many years and affected every part of my life.

The truth is, nobody is perfect. We, as humans, just handle our imperfections differently. Some people accept their imperfections, live quietly with them and do just fine. Some people don’t notice their imperfections. Others even take the situation a bit further and turn their “shortcomings” to their advantage, for instance actors and comedians. But me, I decided to dwell on my weaknesses and use them as excuses for not moving forward in my life. I lost my self confidence completely and was easily manipulated and controlled. This of course was not a happy time in my life but I have now managed to turn my life around, find the real me, the confident me, the intelligent me, the capable me and really enjoy my life.

So, is there something you can do if you made those same decisions as me and made excuses not to move on with your life? Is there some way to deal with these self esteem issues? Yes there is.
• Accept your imperfections and start working on them, the sooner, the better.
  • Consult a Life Coach who specifically knows how to work with self esteem issues with clients and themselves and find out how you can begin.
  • Accept that you will never be perfect at every single aspect of your life, you are who you are and things happen at the right time for the right reasons.
  • Enjoy life, laugh at your imperfections and when you reach the point that they really drive you mad, work on them and move on!
You will find that you life is much more fun and enjoyable.

If you have no way to handle your undermining thoughts and feelings, you will be bringing them all into your relationship with inappropriate behavior and words. On this day I wrote about my path which made me realize that in a very important way I’ve assumed the most important part of what makes a long-term relationship work – fully committed to following my own path.  Which brings me to this past weekend…

On a Friday during the night I developed my very first bladder infection. It is highly uncomfortable. What I’ve learned to do is to deal with it on the spiritual/emotional level and the physical level so I searched on the internet and found out that lots of water and lots of vitamin C would get rid of it and I also looked in a very important little book called Heal Your Body by Louise Hay. It says that bladder problems are about “Anxiety. Holding onto old ideas. Fear of letting go. Being ‘pissed off’.” It also says the positive affirmation to use is “I comfortably and easily let go the old and welcome the new in my life. I am safe.”

At the time I wrote about here there was much new in my life: someone else living with me and the Martian, being 65, having an old client quit, dealing with foods that don’t work for me constantly around and often calling to me because someone else was living here, etc. So I was consciously repeating that affirmation and watching my thoughts about all of these new things. And by the way, the infection was gone in 24 hours! I am blessed.

Then there was the day before I wrote this. My step-daughter seemed to be having some feelings that she didn’t express. It may be my imagination but I believe I have always been quite susceptible to picking up others feelings and I have had a fairly easy time of it recently because I’ve been alone a lot and my husband is pretty good at expressing and taking responsibility for his. Well, we now had a new person who is emotionally built differently than I and whose process is different. I can’t ask or expect her to do it my way. I invited her here knowing full well that there would be personal challenges for me. When I have these unidentified feelings which seem to build up into a kind of pressure that wants to be alleviated by eating (or overeating), I often eat and now there are things like brownies and lasagna in the house – all of which don’t work for this carbohydrate sensitive person that I am. New challenge!

It was apparently time for me to finally work all of these things out but if I didn’t do them myself I would soon be a self-critical bitch who took her bad feelings out on her partner. Whew! But I didn’t do that.

I am fully committed to my own path – the 11th Secret.

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